Stick & Stones
Growing up, I repeatedly heard
“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
This statement has been proven false with some of the latest research on “bullying” saying just the opposite. Physical wounds often heal quicker than emotional wounds caused by those who we thought were our friends, or at least friendly acquaintances.
E-Bullying
Bullying, especially over the Internet, is being discussed in many school settings—including Lutheran schools. It seems the anonymity of the Internet has led students to believe they can often say terrible things about their classmates and expect few consequences in return. Often, this instant and wide spread electronic bullying causes severe harm and disruption to the victims and their families. Many children report being “bullied” electronically and many students admit to using the Internet to cause harm to another.
Lutheran schools attempt to revisit the meaning to the eighth commandment. What does this mean? “We should fear and love God so that we do not tell lies about our neighbor, betray him, slander him or hurt his reputation, but defend him, speak well of him and explain everything in the kindest way.”
The Cultural Norm
Imagine being a child and looking at the examples seen in our culture. Politicians attack each other through half truths and innuendo, celebrities and sports stars verbally spar using the worst case scenario to describe each other.
How about the adults they know and love? What example do children see when they watch mom and dad, teachers and pastors, members of their congregation, and their family? Often times, adults forget the teachings of their youth (eighth commandment meaning) but revert to how our culture handles things. Shouldn’t we all try to speak well about our neighbor? How would our culture be different if we explained everything in the kindest way?
Value Added
It is often said, “values are caught not taught.” We daily have the opportunity to reflect how the Scriptures influence our life by how we treat others. Perhaps, the adults in the church need to review the meaning of the eighth commandment. Maybe the cases of bullying would lessen if we saw more examples of the positive, and concentrated less on how Satan would have us act. If our beliefs do not influence our behavior, why do we have our beliefs?
Lutheran schools are not perfect. They face challenges from the culture, the media, and the accepted norm. Perhaps it is time we adults looked at the eighth commandment and its meaning for the benefit of the Kingdom and our children.
Talk to your school about what they are doing to combat bullying and about what you can do to help.
We are “Blessed” to be a blessing. May you and I, powered by the Holy Spirit, be up to that challenge on a daily basis.